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Protect Yourself with Forgiveness

One of the most memorable pieces of advice my mom ever gave me was, “Don’t go to bed mad,” and Mom lived by her words. Mom was the sweetest, most forgiving person I’ve ever known.

I saw Mom’s feelings hurt many times over the years (by all of us.) Of course, those things happen within families from time to time, but to the best of my knowledge, Mom never burdened herself with grudges. She might go to bed in tears or with some sadness occasionally, but never with bitterness, anger, or the desire for revenge toward others.

If you hurt Mom’s feelings and apologized, she accepted it with joy so that the wounds could heal quickly. On the other hand, if you never apologized, I think Mom just turned it over to God because she knew grudges harm our souls. I wish everone could have known my mom; she was awesome, and we miss her!

Jesus thought it necessary for us not to hold grudges against each other; in fact, in Jesus’s own words, He said: “But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever says to his brother, ‘You good-for-nothing,’ shall be guilty before the supreme court; and whoever says, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell. Therefore if you are presenting your offering at the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come and present your offering.” Matthew 5:22-24

So, If you have harmed someone, make it right; if you’ve been hurt, do your best to make it right, and don’t let the sun go down on your anger.

“If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” Romans 12:18

Be forgiving!

see: Ephesians 4:26–27; Matthew 5:22–24; Romans 12:18; Ephesians 4:30–32; Colossians 3:13; Matthew 6:14–15.

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“It’s My Life”? Think Again

What teenager hasn’t made a similar statement? What adult has never said a similar statement? At Church services in our congregation, someone would hand out a list of prisoner prayer requests gathered by those working in prison ministry. Later, as I prayed and read the requests, I noticed a high percentage of requests from prisoners were for loved ones. Many were concerned about how their absence due to incarceration had caused hurt, physical stress, pain, and financial burdens to those who loved them—their parents, wives, children, grandparents, etc.

Behind bars, their concern for loved ones seems heightened and at the forefront of their minds. I don’t know what got these people behind bars, but I do know: OUR ACTIONS AFFECT THOSE WE LOVE, and we should consider this when we start thinking, “It’s my life; I’ll do what I want.”

No matter what time of life we’re in, young or old, we are examples to those around us, and when we make bad choices, those choices can easily create unnecessary burdens on our loved ones. Jesus knew what He was talking about when He commanded us to love others as He loved us. Jesus is the ultimate example for our lives, and when He walked this earth, He lived accordingly.

If we follow the command to “love others as Christ loved us,” then “living our life like we want to” means living with the understanding that what we do affects those we love.

  • John 13:34
  • Matthew 5:16, 22:39.
  • 1 Timothy 4:12
  • Ephesians 5:1-31
  • Romans 14:7-8, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20, Galatians 6:7-8, Philippians 2:3-4, Matthew 5:16, Matthew 22:37-39, Ephesians 5:1-2, 1 John 3:16-18, Proverbs 22:6, Deuteronomy 6:6-7, 1 Corinthians 8:9-13, Colossians 3:17, 2 Corinthians 5:15.

If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18

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